Sunday, October 31, 2021

In Memory of Norma Jean Ashcraft

1 Corinthians 13

New International Version

1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 

2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 

3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

These verses are a part of Corinthians 13 we don't hear that often. I'm sure all of us have been to a wedding with the reading "love is patient, love is kind" etc. This passage precedes those verses. What we often hear as an admonition to newlyweds is part of a greater missive generally accepted to have been written about unconditional love. 

What I hold in my heart from day to day is what Nanny taught me about love. Her life, and all our lives, was not and are not easy. We face a world of challenges every day. But in that same world exist all the beautiful variations of art, music, language, food, creativity and love. 

Nanny taught me how to love in a world that doesn't always make sense. How to love life fully and recklessly. I treasure the lessons she gave about love. And because of her I also love the person she taught me to be. 

I believe that if she saw the world as it is today she would remind us to live carefully but love recklessly. Thank you all for being here today and a special thank you to Nanny for loving us. 


Norma Jean Ashcraft
October 24, 1934 - February 19th, 2020

Friday, October 1, 2021

Palliative Self Care

NOTE: This was written as a spoken word piece. I am not talking about suicide, just the natural process of living and dying with chronic illness. 
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When you are not ready to die but it is too painful to live then it is time to engage in palliative self care. It is time to acknowledge that you are living in pain. Being of this world is hard. It is, quite literally, the hardest and longest thing you will ever do. You will never work so hard on anything as you do on living. 

The pain you feel is real. The injury is real. 

Let go of the facade for a while. You don't have to keep pretending that you are fine. I know I'm not fine.